There are days when things go smoothly and everyone’s happy. Then there’re the other kind…
Whether it’s toddlers having a meltdown about not wanting a bath, or tweens not wanting to stop texting their friends, so they can do homework or teenagers not getting out of bed at a reasonable time, there are things that really get us hot under the collar.
Parents get fed up with constant fighting and having to remind or correct all the time. It’s so annoying!
There are lots of parenting courses out there, that might help, but it other people might judge you, if they find out what it’s like at your house, and you already struggle to feel like you’re doing a good job.
There are alternatives. I offer a chance to sit down one-to-one, to explore some alternative ways of understanding what is going on in your offspring’s head, so you can make strategic moves that promote cooperation and encourage everyone – including yourself!
Family leadership is a way of approaching children’s behavior and discipline which will allow you to use your knowledge of your children and yourself, to get along with each other.
I have designed a Group Coaching Programme called Five Secrets to Happy Children that looks at some of the principles and strategies that help create a happy atmosphere in the family.
I can work with parents and others who have responsibility for children and young people, such as grandparents, teachers, TAs, Care staff and other interested people, to look at the five secrets in a number of ways:
- One-to-one coaching
This would be by appointment, usually for 1 to 1½ hours over an agreed number of weeks. An initial assessment session followed by the agreed sessions would allow space for putting strategies into practice at home, and having time to achieve some consistency, so that new behaviours can be encouraged.
- Face to face / Online
While face to face sessions are probably the most ideal, it may not be possible to achieve this. For this reason, I have found that using an online video meeting method such as FaceTime or Zoom can be very helpful. It is still good to have a quiet hour for the session, but is especially helpful for those who are geographically distant or who have an illness or disability which would prevent a face-to-face meeting
- Small groups
It may be that a group of friends might find the support and social activity of a small group extremely beneficial. This can help spread costs as well and provide opportunities for sharing ideas , tips and strategies together. Other groups may find this coaching programme useful. It could prove helpful to have a framework that could be implemented throughout the organization, such as a nursery or school for instance, where all staff get to learn together.
- In development: Online course
I hope to launch an online course version of Five Secrets to Happy Children in the near future.